Is Self- Validation really just Self-Acceptance in disguise?
Some lessons we learn the hard way!!
Validation is a toughie.
We are always looking to validate our thoughts, feelings and actions, ideas, opinions, etc.
The reality is you have to believe in yourself
and accept yourself first, and always.
Self-Validation is really just self-acceptance in disguise.
It's about feeling strong in who you are,
what you have to offer the world
and how you manage the bullshit that they throw at us.
Acceptance in Practice = Confidence
THE MORE YOU ACCEPT YOURSELF, THE MORE CONFIDENT YOU FEEL.
THE MORE SELF-VALIDATION YOU RECEIVE, THE LESS EXTERNAL VALIDATION YOU NEED
Do you see the pattern/cycle here?
So how do you practice SELF-VALIDATION?
Here are my TOP TIPS for learning to validate yourself...
1. STAY PRESENT.
Being mindful of thoughts, behaviors and actions helps us identify, understand and VALIDATE our true identity.
2. SELF REFLECTION.
Honoring and accepting your feelings and needs without judgment, both past and present is Self-Validation.
3. USE YOUR HISTORY.
Past experiences teach us about ourselves and others, and what we're truly capable of. Look at past successes. Look at your past struggles.
You Self Validate the present by looking back at what has been. i.e. your successes, wins, losses, growth.
4. BE HUMAN.
Being human means, you feel a wide range of emotions. You VALIDATE your humanness by accepting all these feelings; the good, bad and the ugly with no judgement, only understanding to learn and grow.
It takes practice to learn to validate ourselves and be accepting of all of our feelings and thoughts. Especially the ugly parts.
It’s not always easy to do, especially if you have previously suppressed your feelings or put yourself down for feeling a certain way.
But what would change for you if you stopped putting your value in someone else's hands?
THE MORE YOU LOOK WITHIN FOR THAT VALIDATION, THE LESS YOU LOOK OUTWARD.
TELL ME, when was the last time you felt validated by your own confidence?
xo , Josie
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